Unless your wife is amoral she "knows" she is doing wrong. The internal conflict is there hence the "fog" and "script," those are coping mechanisms. She might not ever admit her wrongdoing ever. But she feels it - pressure.
She is watching to see how you act towards her. How you take care of yourself.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
