Thanks Pearl... That is so helpful. You know, my H has told me that sex with me has always been way better than with her. I don't think he is just saying that, b/c it really is Good with us, and always has been. He said the 23 year old was so inexperienced and self centred that it really wasn't that enjoyable. He really doesn't care about stretch marks and all that, and I know he never has. It is more my issue, and I just have to get over it! I know it is about attitude and self confidence, that is what I am working on. If someone would have told me that I would be open to re-engaging in our sex life so soon after infidelity, I would have thought they were crazy! But I have felt like I needed to re-claim him, and we have had some of the best sex ever since our being married for 19 years. We've had a good day today. Went to H's work christmas party and I got along great with everyone. H commented that he knows OW would have not gotten along with anyone there... hahah...got a good chuckle out of that. onwards and upwards... one day at a time
