I was in the military and saw them turn a blind eye to adultery even to the detriment of morale in the unit. I don't think it's a given they will get fired.

Think thru that before you do it. Make sure it fits your values and beliefs. She can do whatever she wants regardless of what you do. She's feeling more pressure and watching you more than you know.

M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12
Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.