One day at a time....

[pearlharbr]

You're not alone Rocked, I'm still dealing with a lot of anger and other emotions. Right now I'm chalking it up to the anniversaries: the bomb, separating, holidays apart, etc. But I know it's more than that.

I still have moments when I regret never having slapped BF's face REALLY hard and I want to do it so badly just to get it out of my system. But I can't because that time has passed.

I'm jealous of how H4U's W really seems to get it and is open to talking about things. BF still runs in the other direction at any mention of infidelity and that bothers me. But I know that it's only been seven months of piecing so I have a long way to go.

Oh, I was going to mention, I understand your feelings about OW being young, etc. Not that I've had children but I was very fixated on BF and OW's sex life and felt like I was being compared to her unfavorably.

Start getting yourself dolled up again because it will help you feel good about yourself. Self confidence is sexy so work on that. Own that body because it is fabulous, stretch marks and all.

I have a friend who is quite the ladies' man. He has literally thousands of women throwing themselves at him. What impresses me the most about him is that while he appreciates a beautiful woman, he doesn't like artificial beauty. He appreciates smile lines and grey hairs and curves (or lack of them in my case). So know that men in general, and your H in particular, can and do see you as one hot mama!