It takes a while to make sure you are looking for a R and not validation. I think that's often why guys are quick to grab onto a new R, it makes them feel like men again. I'm into year three separated and am not in a place where dating makes sense to me. I need to be in a place where I am content with myself and my life and am therefore dating out of desire for a companion and not trying to complete myself with someone else. Besides, dating again after twenty years scares the hell out of me!
