Kalni, Many things that your H has done or not done just do not add up. There is something that is not quite right. I wouldn't be surprised if he was still very much addicted to OW and thus his inability to act lovingly towards you. This happened with my H even after his PA ended. He was telling me he wanted ME but kept pursuing OW for a very long time. He was addicted to her eventhough he realized the type of person she was. Your H's inaction with the R has been unacceptable.
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