the court won't care that an 18 y/o SIBLING is watching your d...) I mean what's the worry? Is the d18 a felon or drug addict?) In fact I'd have suggested her first.
Please detach...detach...Do Not even let the thought that your XH...X....would pull a "Tiger" on you enter your brain. Why torture yourself?
Tiger's sitch just got discovered and his w just found out and THIS decision to work on the M and stop golf, is WHAT a guy who at least seems to want his m to work, does now to start the road to recovery and healing. Your h did not choose that in the past when he had the chance...and he still isnt' making that choice....so, his response was...telling...Know enough now?? Plus You keep making it about what HE wants whether he's going to go for it, and not why on earth you'd want HIM? I don't get it. You're not looking at the sitch with a healthy attitude...
Let him go. He's gone anyhow, and you need to move on. As I said, and others have said, if the time comes that your X h wants another m with you --you won't have to guess or read into things.
You will KNOW...and until if and when that happens, stop spinning your wheels honey. Go live a real life. Go Get A Life...you can do this. You did it before, do it again.
Stop this crazy cycle. And I Mean crazy...your Xh had other women, AND a drinking problem AND can't have supervised visits b/c he doesn't have his [censored] together AND he's got financial problems AND he mooches....Sweetie, What the heck is it gonna take for you to let go of this loser? I'm sorry but what's it gonna take --he has to hit you in the face? Would THAT Clarify things? Please dont' make THAT the only thing that would free you. Free yourself!!
Is it hopeless? Well if you'd take him back as he is now, then YES it is hopeless. But If you move forward in your life and GAL and grow from this and then he notices AND decides he wants back in AND that he DOES the work it would take THEN and ONLY THEN do you need to spend an ounce of thought on this...and IF ALL Of these things took place then MAYBE I'd say there's hope! Go for it!
But alas, you are not near that type of place. So the good news is that there is a lot more clarity than you pretend. Some periodic affection thrown your way is NOT a move towards a reconciliation....sorry...you know what it is. ANd what it is not...
So go for the GAL activities and have fun tonight! j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
