BTM. Dude you need to make sure you go on vacation. If you get bitter once. Walk away. Play some beach volleyball or something. Actually play in as many activities as you can. Have a vacation. And drag your son into it. Swim. Laze about. Read your self help books.
Then when you get all R'd up. Instead of getting trashed. Why not go for a walk on the beach with your children and tell them how much you love them. How much you want to work on your relationship with them. Anything you want to say to your wife. Say it to your children. They will be watching. IF you are drinking. do 1 drink. 3 waters.
