Pls help--confused and fearful

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Okay, another nasty TM.

"May I suggest you get a job to start paying your bills. I told you not to bite the hand that feeds you. I was not kidding. Kids can gladly move with me since I can provide for them while you find a place you can actually afford."

LOL ... sorry.

IGNORE THIS. It's BS. He is pulling your chain, pressing your buttons, he is trying to get you to respond. DO NOT DO IT.

There is nothing in the text that needs a response. DO NOT DO IT.

This is BS, right? Taking deep breaths. He's really trying to rattle me. It's because I spoke with OW's ex.

He has rattled you. Just admit it. But admit it HERE, not to him.

He's trying to force me to file, right? Am I see this right?

This has nothing to do with filing. Who comes off the worst if you file? Him.

This has to do with power, plain and simple. He is trying to hurt you. He is trying to upset you. He is trying to wrestle the control back from you.

Here is what he wants you to do - he wants you to respond with a 'youre right, I'm sorry' type of message. He then knows he has the control over the finances and will pull it out of the bag at every turn.

I'm trying so hard not to respond. I am wanting to defend myself for speaking with OW's ex. Darn it. I'm getting nervous.

If you do respond, I will take a flight over there and twat you one with a 2x4. IGNORE HIM.

Also know this. When you don't respond, he will come back with another, and another, and another text message or email. He will keep going and he will get nastier and more threatening with each one (probably start calling you a bad mother yada yada yada) - whatever he puts in those messages he knows will push your buttons. He does it for this exact reason. He will push every single button until he get;s a response, then he has the power back.

Trick is, see it for what it is (a power game), laugh at it and remember this - he can't win the game if you're not playing. Don't play the game.