Not sure if I am going to make a point of "pointing out the name" or not. I was tempted to strike the name off the list with a bold black marker, but resisted.
I don't think it's healthy. I've not had a webcam since my H threw mine away when he discovered my EA. We had a relative who spend about a month with us a while back and was using a cheap webcam, and said that she was going to leave it and we could use it to contact her when she went back to her home state. She left and I couldn't find it. My first thought was wondering if my H threw it away. I asked him if he had any idea where it may be.......and when I saw the look on his face, I could have cut my tongue out.
The point is, whenever a small word or deed is done (such as you thought about doing) it's like pounding a nail in that cross the two of you are carrying around. No good can come out of it and it adds to the misery. Not like you have to "remind" her that you've not forgotten what happen. Just like I could have went to the store to buy another webcam.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
