Are you absolutely sure that's what you want to give her at this time? What's the rush? I would think long and hard about this and not make a rash decision just yet. Give yourself a break and wait until the middle of January. Then, if you are absolutely certain that you want to file, then do so. But don't do it when you are feeling the way you are right now. Okay?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
