Jstar, your sitch may have an extra added layer of difficulty in the form of cultural differences as well.
My sister married a man from Mexico City, helped him get his green card, and then....well....
Anyway, during the divorce trial, he just didn't get it that women in this country actually have rights. He was blown away that my sister was awarded the house and spousal maintenance; so blow away that he admonished his atty to "DO SOMETHING!!" as the judge was handing down the decision.
