I don't think I was acting like one....but called WAW today just in case she was thinking that way. Gotta keep things nice considering the vacation to Mexico is only 10 days away.
WAW called me today to ask a few questions about Christmas and the vacation at that time.
WAW: "Are we buying Christmas presents for each other" BTM: "No - that doesn't make much sense"
WAW: "Are we going to stay in the same room on vacation?" BTM: "No - we, well I have made great progress getting used to sleeping alone and that would be a step backwards"
I don't think you can pull off this vacation without harming your efforts. What's the goal of going on the vacation? Tradition, it was already planned, last family vacation don't count in my book.
I liked your responses above. I just don't think the vacation is in anyone's best interests right now.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
BTM: "No - we, well I have made great progress getting used to sleeping alone and that would be a step backwards" OK response but Too Much Info. A better answer would have been: "No. I wouldn't want you to get wrong idea."
Your the MAN remember? - Men don't talk. We "DO." - We keep our answers as short as possible. - Our actions communicate.
On your vacation keep your eyes OFF your W and ON any piece of interesting fluff that passes by. Check them out. You're a MAN and you got needs. When you look at your W you have a critical or bored look on your face. Communicate indirectly that she doesn't "do it" for you anymore. Any outfits she wears you give her a bored look once over and look away.
EDIT: And then watch her start to jump through hoops to get your attention. Keep "running away" to draw her in.
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I don't think you can pull off this vacation without harming your efforts. What's the goal of going on the vacation? Tradition, it was already planned, last family vacation don't count in my book.
I liked your responses above. I just don't think the vacation is in anyone's best interests right now.
BTM: "No - we, well I have made great progress getting used to sleeping alone and that would be a step backwards" OK response but Too Much Info. A better answer would have been: "No. I wouldn't want you to get wrong idea."
Your the MAN remember? - Men don't talk. We "DO." - We keep our answers as short as possible. - Our actions communicate.
On your vacation keep your eyes OFF your W and ON any piece of interesting fluff that passes by. Check them out. You're a MAN and you got needs. When you look at your W you have a critical or bored look on your face. Communicate indirectly that she doesn't "do it" for you anymore. Any outfits she wears you give her a bored look once over and look away.
EDIT: And then watch her start to jump through hoops to get your attention. Keep "running away" to draw her in.
I do like your response better than mine, but I think mine was ok too.
I have mentioned before that my WAW is totally hot. She always dresses to show while we are on vacation. I will be sure to not let her catch me looking. I won't go so far as to look critical, but I will look uninterested. And yes, I will make sure she "catches" me looking at other women.
I don't think you can pull off this vacation without harming your efforts. What's the goal of going on the vacation? Tradition, it was already planned, last family vacation don't count in my book.
I liked your responses above. I just don't think the vacation is in anyone's best interests right now.
I agree with Coach. On both counts.
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I have the whole vacation thing all worked out in my mind. I am going to have a great week in the sun away from the snow here. I think this just might be the perfect opportunity to show my WAW just how much I have moved on.
BTM. Dude you need to make sure you go on vacation. If you get bitter once. Walk away. Play some beach volleyball or something. Actually play in as many activities as you can. Have a vacation. And drag your son into it. Swim. Laze about. Read your self help books.
Then when you get all R'd up. Instead of getting trashed. Why not go for a walk on the beach with your children and tell them how much you love them. How much you want to work on your relationship with them. Anything you want to say to your wife. Say it to your children. They will be watching. IF you are drinking. do 1 drink. 3 waters.
I think I will be fine. I am looking at it as a "normal" vacation with my kids and their mother. I feel very little for my WAW right now, so it will be easier to spend a with with her around.
Cutter - no promises on the drinking thing. It is all inclusive after all! I will make sure to stop before I get to the point where I will say or do something I will regret later.
