Hi h4u and Rabbit, Thanks for your thoughts. H4U that is very helpful. Just to normalize the experiences, to know someone else felt a similar way, and that it can all be ok... those are the things I need to know right now. I had a "moment" this morning, getting teary about some of the hurt and lies, and H just held me and apologized...again. It was what I needed. We are getting there, I think we will get there. But it is so much harder that I think we both ever thought possible. Finding the balancing managing our own emotions while processing the R stuff... tough balance sometimes.
