Can I save my marriage?

[courts0818]

Hugs, Britt. I have many of the same feelings that you do. If you feel like his companion only bc he has nothing better to do -then stop making yourself available to him. You can't leave the house 24/7, but you can do things to occupy your time when you are home together - focus on your boys, get on the computer, read a book, paint your nails, call a friend, scrapbook, take a long bath, watch a movie - do things that you enjoy. And when the opportunity does comes up, keep doing things outside the home.

When my H was still living at home, but after he stated how unhappy he was and after he started becoming distant and being gone as much as possible, I stopped doing all of the housework for him. I figured if he wasn't committed to me and our marriage, I wasn't going to do his laundry, cook his favorite meals, run his errands and that sort of thing. If it's building resentment in you, I think I'd stop doing it or stop doing as much of it.

[armywifevampi]

i know that line I love u but im not in love with u very comen i see.... and my H is not even here his over seas so thats to tell u how they all think alike to ....

[Lll54]

So, H came home from the game last night and played with S3 for a while. I was on the couch watching t.v. He sat down on the next couch, looked at me and said " So my Christmas party is on thursday"

I didn't know what to do or say. I wasn't sure if it was an invite or what? I work thursday night so that's what came out. " Oh, i see. I work thursday night"

He didn't say much. Just "oh ya"

He then said he was so tired went to the room got into pj's came out and kissed S3 goodnight and went to bed.

I dunno, if this was an invite this is HUGE!!!! I don't know how to ask him if it was or not???? If it was, heck I'll cancel my shift on thursday to go! I don't know what to do!

[Gnosis]

Sorry dear, he's jerking you around.

Your correct response to something like this in the future is:

"So?..." with a disinterested look

or

"And?..." with a blank look

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EDIT: If it was an invite he'll ask you direct. It wasn't. He was taking your temperature. Don't get excited. Ignore.

[TrentC]

Sorry dear, he's jerking you around.

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EDIT: If it was an invite he'll ask you direct. It wasn't. He was taking your temperature. Don't get excited. Ignore.

Agreed. He wants to see if you'll keep jumping when he calls.

[Gnosis]

Hey Trent I've noticed even though we've got different styles we do seem agree a lot LOL

[TrentC]

Well, it's not hard to draw the same conclusions for a lot of this stuff.

[Lll54]

Okay, I'll take it as not an invite. Especially after what just happened.

H just called to tell me not to expect him home for supper. I thought it was because he was going to play hockey for the out of town team he plays for. Last i heard that was his plan.

I asked if he is driving out there alone. He says he's not going anymore can't get off work in time.

I ask why not to expect him then? He says he's going over to a buddy's house to watch the "fight" on t.v.

Just could really care less about coming home to see the boys at all. You would think he would come home after work, see the boys, then go. But no. The man really doesn't care about us. My heart is breaking. And mostly because he is going to be leaving soon, as I can't do this anymore. I can't have my husband be my room mate. Come and go as he pleases. Just expects I can take care of the kids. Doesn't even ask If I have plans or about the kids tonight at all. I'm so sick to my stomach.

He is not the man I married.

[Gnosis]

Conquer your fear

[Steve McQueen]

Conquer your procrastination