how can i set him up to be sucussful so i get the things i want, i really have no clue at all.

i could send him a pic of d2 and i, showing we are fine, i'd rather he live in the dark. is that harsh? wrong?

Me 39 H 30
d 18 previous marriage
d 2.5 with H
s 4.5months with H
Seperation Nov09
july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline