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Hey GIMA,

I feel your pain. My kids are the same way. They have a very strong attachment to me, especially given the fact that my W travels alot with work. I don't think this part ever gets any better or easier. It is what it is.

This morning I presented my W with my house appraisal. She was not happy since it was MUCH lower than the appraisal she obtained. I then asked when she'll be ready with one of the "hidden" bank statements. I also suggested that we sit down tomorrow to negotiate about the household goods and furniture. I'm definitely putting on the full court press with this divorce and I'm definitely seeing my W start to crack. She even slipped up and called me honey. Yikes.

I sometimes wonder if I'm doing the right thing. I'm going to miss my kids a ton, but I don't see my wife committing to this relationship given that she has been househunting, consolidating finances, and getting appraisals. How else do I interpret "I'm completely done with this relationship" from my W. Yes, she's talking to me more now than any point this year. Yes, this is an improvement, but am I just naive and seeing/hearing what I want to be seeing/hearing? Tough question.

I have the rest of the afternoon free since my W took the kids to celebrate the extended-family Christmas at her parents house. I was not invited, but that's o.k. I'm simply going to relax and enjoy my afternoon. I taking the kids to my boss' Christmas party later tonight.

Thanks,
LFH