Is this the end of my marriage?

[Day by Day]

Xmas has also given me a bit of a revelation. Out of the mess that W and OM created, I'm actually the one who has come out of this the best. I never thought about that until last night.

I have my strength, my courage, my hope and I have good friends who support me. Most of all though, I have D. D will wake up on Xmas day and want the presents Santa left for her. I have a house that is beautifully decorated. I have some of my motivation back and most of all I have some peace that Xmas this year will be good.

You can't buy that stuff.

On top of all of that, I have been given a second chance at happiness, with W or with somebody else. I have also been given a lesson in how a R works and how I can be a better boyfriend / partner / husband. These are hard lessons as cutter said, but they are valuable lessons. These are the lessons that W hasn't learned and is unlikely to learn. She will make the same mistakes with OM1 as she did with me, and then when she leaps into a new R with OM2, OM3, OM4 (as she can't stand being on her own) she will make the same with them.

You are so right P17. I now believe how they say that the LBS come out better from this because of all the effort we put into trying to save the marriage and improving ourselves. We grow during this pain while WAS is stuck and doesn't improve at all and is doomed to repeat the same mistakes with other R.

I'm so happy to read how strong you sound and all the things you are doing for YOURSELF and D! Happy to read that you are going on with having a nice Xmas with D and decorating happily. Good for you.