Saffie and Dane thank you for posting. Dane: THe OW H does not know yet. Believe me, if he did find out and kicked her out it would be exactly what she wants to use as a playing card to get my H to "protect her." He already thinks she is so wonderful for being patient for 2 years and now another 3 month since he moved out. I will tell the OW H if OW is getting ready to leave to help him but she plans on staying with H if my H decides to come back to our family. Exposing the A would put her in a position where she would be even more available to my H to come over to his apartment as she wouldnt have to hide it from her H. That is the last thing I need right now. She doesnt love her H and doesnt want to work on marriage at all. Kids are all grown on both sides.
Saffie your sitch sounds so much like mine in many ways and it does give me hope. Lucky for you it never progressed to full blown separation or went on so long. Christmas time is so hard. He asked me what I wanted for a gift when he saw I had bought him something. I wanted to say Come home. This Thursday he came over and spent the night and we had a great time but he spent Thursday afternoon with her. I must stay strong.
It is so nice you to support me on this board. I hope your surgery is not too serious and you recover quickly. It is a difficul and busy time of year to have surgery. I will pray for you. Thank you again and rest and recover.
