Another update / vent.

W has removed my D as a friend on her Bebo page. Very childish thing to do. But maybe it is her way of detaching herself from us. Or maybe, as I suspect, she's thrown a strop.

IM has texted W about D's car seat so she has been asked about it twice now (OM was asked too). No response which isn't like her. Again. looks like she has thrown a strop.

W was given the xmas stuff she asked for, except out of the 8 or so items she asked for she got two and those were the ones she had since she were a kid. The rest now decorate the house.

So either W has taken the hint and is going NC herself, detaching and forgetting about me, and in particular D (which is what really upsets me) or she has thrown a strop. Not sure which.

As I said above, what really upsets me is here complete lack of fight or passions to ask or even see D. She has been part of D's life since she was 2. She's helped bring her up throughout most of her developing years. She has photos, cards, letters etc. of D that I gave her before NC (in fact I actually gave her 2-3 photos the week before NC). She has a large framed photo of D that she took with her when she left (she asked if she could have it) and she has a box of memories of D. D and W adored each other and were inseparable. She has all of this stuff and yet, since she left in September she hasn't asked ONCE how D is, how this is, how was school, how was that. Not ONCE.

D is like a daughter to W. I always considered W to be D's mum. D considered her to be a mum. This is how we all treated each other.

I know it's the fog, but how many WAS forget COMPLETELY about their kids?

However, really, COME ON, stand up and FIGHT for once in your bl**dy life woman! Come to my house. Demand to see your step-D. Tell me you will do whatever you need to (and I don't mean drop the A as that would be for me not D) to see her. Tell me you're sorry she is affected but you will do what you need to to stay in her life. Tell me you love her and tell me you want to be part of her life, however small. Just tell me SOMETHING. It's so frustrating and upsetting. I obviously married the wrong woman for me and D.

So W is playing me at my own game now. She's gone NC too smile Makes me laugh a little bit.

I am waiting for the nasty dagger to be thrown my way as some of you predicted. I think it will come in the form of the separation agreement and her wanting half of my house and business. That will upset me, a lot, but it won't sway me.

For her to throw a strop, as I said in my post yesterday, means she is angry at me. You don't get angry at somebody you feel nothing for, right? The opposite of love is apathy, not anger, etc.

Last edited by P17; 12/12/09 12:16 PM.

Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y
Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010

"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient."
"Delay is the antidote for anger"