Question

[ClingingToHope]

Look, Awest, I'm a guy and you aren't forcing him to make a choice. Chris Rock had a famous line that's being recycled because of Tiger Woods. "A man is only as faithful as his options."

You are allowing him to play the field. There's no consequences for him.

I never cheated on my W. I also was never presented any great opportunity -- an ex- who wanted me back or a co-worker who wanted to get it on. Maybe the opportunity was there for me to pursue, but I didn't see it.

I'd like to think -- and am pretty sure -- I would have turned it down because I'd have been terrified to lose my wife and family and my reputation.

Your H isn't scared of any of those things. He can live with one woman, have his wife and kid on the side -- and not even be financially responsible -- and even be calling a third for kicks.

No one is calling him on the carpet and saying this has to stop. Grow up. Pick one.

You are so scared he's going to pick the other one. He might not. And even if he does, you have a S together. That's a strong pull. So many affairs eventually flame out and then the sheepish WAS will figure out where they should have been all along and try to go back. Then you call the shots.

You've given me some 2-by-4s so I'm giving you one back. I don't think your H respects you.