I think that what you need to do is get your feeling on this issue across to him in a non negative manner. I suspect that he does not realise how much this means to you. Again a good place to talk about these feelings might be with the counsellor.
In the meantime why not initiate something yourself. Be upfront about what you want. Tell him nicely that you were disappointed the other night and it would mean a lot to you if you two could make it right now. I don't think it matters so much who initiates as long as both participents are enthusiastic about taking part.
