Thanks Pearl and CC, Pearl, your advice is so helpful. I was initially quite discouraged when I read some of the struggles in this forum and how long it takes for WAS to get it all out of their system etc. But, it makes sense. I know there is a long road ahead. My emotions are very overwhelming at times. I do try to make sure it doesn't all come out at H, as it doesn't help either one of us. Of course he is going through his own emotions, which we, as the LBS have to face as our painful reality. WAS grieves the end of the A., misses the OP, etc. Sucks! do others here struggle with self esteem? In the darkest times post bomb, I really worked on looking good, feeling good about myself, reminding myself I am an attractive, fabulous woman, etc. Now that H is home, I seem to have days I get almost obsessed with the fact that OW is 23, never had her body distorted by pregnancies, etc., the stresses of rasing a family... so it was all fun, fun, fun. I worry.... will my H ever LOVE me the way he thought he LOVED her? Will I always feel somehow second best, etc. These are just some of the current struggles. Would love to hear where others are at.
CC.... I'll have to catch up on your sitch. Thanks for visiting me here! :-)
