Quote: He didn't seem to have a problem with telling his brother "No." He is afraid of his mother's reaction though. He's afraid that she will jump all over him, and he's probably right about that.
is there any way that you can sympathize with him as opposed to making it a him and them against you thing?
families that don't have boundaries are very difficult to deal with...my h is just learning that he can say he wants to stay home on holidays etc...though this past 4th of july he did have an hour long convo with his uncle (who has family over on the 4th) about us having our own cookout here and how it was unfair yada yada yada...in past years h would have just gone there too just to keep the peace...taking the stand is not always easy and harder to do the closer the family is and even harder to do when empathy and support is not there from the spouse. That is not to say that you are not supportive of him.
sorry this was short a very small pooh bear (halloween costume) is beggin me to get away from the puter.
