One thing I read about recently is detachment, I am trying hard to emotionally detach from my H. Whenever he's w/ OW or contacting her, I tell myself that he's been adopted or possessed and is not the man whom I've married to 15 years ago and this helps to cut the pain. As for physical detachment, I won't be holding, hugging or kissing him unless he initiates it.
Yet we are still living in the same apartment (a small one like the rest in Hong Kong) and doing things together, e.g. dinner, movies and shopping etc. Normally if I failed to hear from him by the evening, I will give him a call and ask if he'll be back for dinner and I will just said goodbye if he said no. We also spent most weekends together (apart from his ritual of having lunch with OW usually on Saturdays). Should I stop all these activities if I need to practice detachment or should I just answer his request but avoid initiating?
I know I sound week but I'm new to all these ideas and is trying to figure out what is best to do.
