The sooner the LBH can start to focus on how he can be a better person (man), the sooner he starts to feel a lot better. His self-esteem begins to grow and his personality takes on a new shine. It does help to get out and socialize, b/c if you don't then all you can think about is the stitch. Look at it this way.....when you are helping yourself...you are helping the M.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!