Yes, I do think you misunderstood what I was saying. When we were dating he flat out told me that he would NEVER put me before his family or friends. He proceeded to do that for the 2.5 years that I mentioned even though we were a couple and were telling each other "I love you"...I'm not referring to casual dating. At that point, I did tell him that I was not staying in a relationship where I was spending every single holiday alone. He did start including me then, AND I did participate (and still do).
And yes, his family is infringing on our time together. We have been trying to plan a weekend alone for some time, planning around his hockey schedule and my kids' schedules. We have given up two potential weekends because of his family coming to town. The first time, his brother said that he "might" stay with us, then it was that he "would probably" stay with us "maybe 1 night or maybe 2 nights." We didn't find out if he would or wouldn't until he came to our house. However, we had put on plans on hold just in case, which I think wasn't the right thing to do. The next time, his mother said she was coming to town on Sun. and then cancelled the day before. We had put our plans on hold yet again. Now, we can't even attempt to plan anything again until probably at least Feb.
Hey, I'm not greedy here...I just would like US, as a couple, to be first some of the time, and I don't think that's unreasonable.
