Detaching, Still. 4 years later

[Lissie]

THIS time with , gratitude, love and acceptance.

I promised my angel that I would post at the 4 year mark.
You better be reading Pilar.

Detaching, it makes me giggle to even write it.. I think all my threads were named detaching for the longest time b/c for the love of me I could not grasp the concept.

It's been 4 years since the man I married picked up walked out that door, and really never looked back.

Thank you God that he did that.. I would never be where I am now, if he wouldn't of left me.

So thank you XH.

My story is really no different than so many of the brave stories on here.

My Xh is still with the OW.. Actually his GF. They live together over an hour away..

I actually wish he would live closer, maybe he would see his amazing children more.

Seeing him with her does nothing to me anymore. It is awesome.

I don't really know what to say here except.

You are all going to make it.. You are all going to learn such amazing things about yourself.

Don't get me wrong, the long look in the mirror is scary stuff..

But you work on all of it one day at a time, set your goals, promise yourself and your children if you have any, that you are going to be the best you , you can be.. It will happen.

We all contributed to the demise of our marriages. Accept all of it, work thru all of it..

Then please, forgive yourself. Really forgive yourself. Everything happens for a reason.

When you know better, you do better, and you attract better.

Find yourself again ok?

I have no advice on how to get your spouse back. I know how much you just NEED to read those reunion stories when you get here.. I exactly know.

That is ok... You are exactly where you need to be right at this moment.

Just try to remember a few things along the way.

Forgive and forget, nobody is perfect. You do that for YOU and no one else.

Make yourself and your children proud. They have been through so much. Go easy on them, one day at a time, one foot in front of the other.

If you are angry, that is ok too, we all have to go through our own stages of grief.

Make the decision not to stay stuck in any one emotional place for a long period of time.. I believe you won't.. HAve faith in yourselves.

Spend time with the elderly and young children. There is a certain glow in their eyes, that makes you want to grab life by the ballz and live it to the fullest.


Divorce is not easy by any means, but it is not a death sentence. For me it has been a rebirth of sorts.

I try to take no one and nothing for granted.

I love to the fullest.


Is this hard on the children? Well yes. Does it get better for them.. I say yes.

Therapy and love, family and heavy prayers, have brought my children along..They are such wonderful kids.
Do I feel sorry for them?

I did at the very beginning..Now to feel sorry for them is so disrespectful. They can do this.. They are doing this.. I am with them every step of the way, We are doing this.


Thank you my angels, that I met here almost 4 years ago. You had/have faith in me, and that pushed me so far.

I love that you are part of my everyday life. Thank you...

Lissett