Tell me how moving back in might play out in the WAW's mind.
You mean outside of hating your guts? There is no easy solution that I can think of. You are not going to be on your W's good side, that's for sure! But, you need to either take the cold fact that you were the one who offered her that generous amount each month......and learn to live with it......or move back home and take her wrath.
As far as "helping" the M, at this point, moving back into the house isn't the magic formula, but I was thinking of how to do it if you "had" to go back. The point I was trying to make was not to look weak to her if you moved back home. It would be better for her to be raving mad at you rather than her to be disgusted thinking you were weak and crawling you way back in. If you have to go back.....do it like a strong man who is doing what he "wants" to do and not b/c he couldn't make it finacially and had no other choice. (I hope that makes sense.)
You see, to a WAW, she can get over being mad-- if you are an attractive, self-confident man. However, respecting a man who shows signs of weakness is not something that most women (IMHO)can overcome in a quick time. Respect is the main thing she must have for you at this time.
So, after saying all of that, my advice to you would be to take your lumps and live out of the home as best that you can. Hope I don't sound wishy-washy about that, but I guess I misunderstood and thought you didn't have much choice financially.
It may set you back as far as the MR is concerned if you moved back in with her right now....IDK. I usually support the idea of moving back home, but depends on the situation.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
