Quote: You're right, I could certainly do that. However, I enjoy spending time with my H even if he doesn't put the same degree of importance on that time. It's not even that I mind getting together with his family; I just think it's unreasonable to expect that we should always give up our entire weekend each and every time - particularly when they're coming into town often.
I agree with how you feel...for a while my in laws lived just six miles down the road (an apt I found them when they were selling there house and not looking for a new place) and every single sunday morning (the only day that h doesn't work) fil would come knocking at the door at 7am, becuase we have young children we were always awake at that time making breakfast but it was still annoying to me...didn't seem to bother h much and that annoyed me all the more..felt like an invasion...the only way I found to deter it was to suggest we go out to breakfast one sunday and remind h to let fil know we wouldn't be home so that he wouldn't show up and find us not there...that at least changed fil's arival time to 10am a bit easier to deal with.
how about looking at it this way..they are h's family..try to understand his position with it..perhaps it doesn't thrill him either the way they impose but as I stated before maybe he's a conflict avoider people pleaser. Try not to blame h for their behavior.
