Quote: The biggest problem we seem to be having with this is the expectation that we'll be 100% available and willing to give up any other plans that we may have when any of his family suddenly decides they're coming to town to stay with us. Since we're in a major city, they tend to come up frequently for sporting events, kid tournaments, etc. I have 2 teenagers from my prior marriage, so we're already pretty busy. I also value our couple time. However, my H will do whatever his family wants.
if you can sit back and think about it, how often and how much of your time does his family really take up?
I do understand the feeling of being invaded...my in laws were at my house every weekend for a whole year whether I knew they were comming or not..I was almost afraid to have a cookout with my friends because they'd always show up (and empty handed to boot)
my h never understood why this would bother me..thing is he grew up that way..there were no boundaries quite the opposite of my family. Is either way wrong? not really it's just a matter of perspective. you can't change who your family is you can only change how you deal with them. perhaps h doesn't want to burn any bridges or cause any conflict and therefore is there for them. Your resentment toward his being there for his family cannot serve to bring the two of you closer. Is there perhaps another way for you to look at or approach the situation?
