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Originally Posted By: luvless
Trent - I'm not depressed just sad that my H may not love me anymore lol jeez

I'm working through this it's only been about a month I've been dealing with this so gotta give me some bad days.

Thank you for reading my posts and commenting. I appreciate the input.



Fair enough. I just see a lot of bad days...


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aw G -

How could I disappoint you and be a wuss? Ok, how bout I try? hey..before I read your post I didn't wanna do nuthin.

So...I will put on my fake (cute face) smile and pretend (this sucks a**!!) I will just go shopping and keep myself busy. He still initiates conversation and will say, "you wanna get something to eat"...should I say "you go ahead?" I should avoid him right? It's hard on the weekend.

He doesn't have to babysit anymore - kids all self sufficient.

as the my kids say, "FML" (f*ck my life)




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You are right Trent - I've had some bad days but I'm venting too.

Don't worry. I've been through hell with some terrible things that happened to my preschoolers. If I could come out of that - I could do anything!

I'm trying T - I am


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Originally Posted By: luvless
He still initiates conversation and will say, "you wanna get something to eat"...should I say "you go ahead?"

NO. You say sure, why not. Let's go have some fun. And go. If it's boring or starts acting out... you smile and tell him, "Look this isn't working, either change your attitude or I'm outta here." ... He'll either change or will persist. If he persists don't say another word, get up calmly and leave.

From there handle yourself with class. No shouting, screaming, disdainful looks. Nada. Comprehende. You're a cool chick and can handle yourself. Pull out your cell phone and call a taxi or friend to come pick you up...

Oh, and you don't return home for at least two hours. Shrug him off. Don't listen to his protests.


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G - I like your style! (wink)


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Luv! FML! LOL (That's a hot saying around our house now, along w/ 'tite')

What did you get shopping???

I didn't have a martini lunch. I had a Sauvignon Blanc lunch. But, it was good!

I like G's idea of going, having a good time, and if he acts up, cut him off immediately. (It's working in my sitch, as well.)

Have a good weekend!


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Originally Posted By: mindfull
I like G's idea of going, having a good time, and if he acts up, cut him off immediately. (It's working in my sitch, as well.)

See? I'll never ask you do to anything that will be detrimental to your sitch.


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I know G..

Sometimes I feel pathetic for being on here...like look what I'm doing and he doesn't give a sh*t.

ok - I'm done venting - wish me luck guys - I think this weekend is gonna be scary.

oh yeah mind...I will do that exactly! thank you and you too have a good weekend.

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Originally Posted By: luvless
Sometimes I feel pathetic for being on here...

Slap! You're not pathetic. You're here to fix your M.

Originally Posted By: luvless
I think this weekend is gonna be scary.

Nope. It's gonna be fun.


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My thoughts are still with you G.

I know you are always here helping people out but I keep thinking about what you're going through inside.

You're Super G remember? smile


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