He's lived away from his family for most of the time since he was around 19; he's now 38.
His dad took off when he was about 9 and was gone (alcoholic) until they reconnected when my H was about 19 and in the Navy. His dad has been sober for over 12 years now and is a drug/alcohol counselor. He's also now a compulsive gambler instead of an alcoholic. I haven't noticed that his dad has done anything at all for him in the 4 years we've been together. His dad lives in another state but comes to our state usually EOW for the gambling, staying with my H's brother.
His mom raised 3 kids alone with no child support or anything. She was/is not a warm individual; I think the kids missed out a lot on just being held and loved. My H has said that she didn't do any of these things. I've never noticed my MIL do anything for my H in the time I've known him either. She's too busy supporting his sister (36) and granddaughter (5). She/stepdad contact us when they want a place to stay when in town.
My H's brother (40) has been divorced for less than a year. He's very emotionless and contacts us only when he wants to stay with us when in town. He's close with his mom/stepdad and frequently does things with the stepdad.
My H's sister (36) has never had to support herself or her daughter (5); the family always does everything for her. My MIL concerns herself only with supporting her daughter and granddaughter. His sister constantly runs off to Hollywood or Miami to be discovered. She doesn't like us because we don't financially support her like everyone else does.
The funny thing about my H's behavior is that he's always the last to know if there's some family thing going on AND often doesn't even find out until afterwards. Or, they will let him know last minute and expect him to jump to come to their town (about 1 1/2 hrs. away). We are not talking about a close family. My H also does not like his stepdad, and his mom has been married to him for 17 years!
Yet, my H always puts all of them first even though they are really not ever considerate of him.
