As for my W, she hasn't accepted any personal accountability for the problems in our MR. The same issues she had in our MR will undoubtedly carry over into any future R she has as will all of her shortcomings.
Hey BJ, how is it going. I am moving to my Surviving the big D thread now, but wanted to post back on yours.
I hear you on the above, but there's nothing we can do about it.
Often I thought of my STBXW as being much more mature in relationship that I was, but then think back to this mess and all the "You shouldn't have to work on a relationship" and comments like that, that make me thing otherwise.
What I have been working on, is when I start to think like this, to then realize that I need to refocus on me now, and what I am doing, and my future.
Who knows what will happen to our STBX's, but I know I want to be a better person for myself, and that's my goal.
I need to make many more goals for myself and plans, without STBXW on my mind, and only myself and d8.
That's been tougher to do than I would have thought..
What are your goals now?
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
