You don't have to date per-se, though sometimes it comes to that, you just have to have the hot female company. Maybe just a nice female friend who goes to the book of month club with you. Once your wife gets a wiff of that AND you realize your mojo still works, it will do something to you that she can smell. It works.
Me 44 She 46 S13 D9 M18 T23 3 years DB'ing Successfully busted
The task is to get her to open up to the Possibility that we can have a sex life.
Originally Posted By: says your wife
She keeps saying she's young and doesn't want to feel like she's wasted her life.
You are both looking at it but you're not looking at it. lol.
I am only making suggestions of different ways of changing the brother/sister dynamic in your relationship from things in your thread: best of friends, sexless, your wife is at her sexual prime, she likes to fool around with other men, she likes to play the aggressor. You got alot to work with here. You're left to construct your own meaning...
let me ask, think back 35 years, remember when the DJ announced it was now time for couples skate? the lights got low, peaches and cream was spinning on the turn table and you had 15 seconds, maybe 20 if you were lucky, to ask the right girl out onto the roller rink. and even though YOU had to do the asking THEY had already determined who was going to hold your hand. Us guys werent really doing the pursuing back then though they let us think we were. hasnt much changed rob.
We both are so excited 'Cause we're reunited, hey, hey
Call up a female friend who you can go out with and sit and have a conversation with, one who you trust and one who knows the boundary of friendship. Dinner if you can or just have a coffee. Perhaps one you have not seen In awhile but could reconnect. This is the first aspect of GAL. Reconnect with old friends.
Start with a new outfit. Get it fitted. Get you best watch out. New shoes and a haircut. Also get a new cologne. Spend some hours here. Antipicate that your creating a new you. One who needs to get up and stand on his feet again. One who feels like a man. Enjoy this. For it is something you have forgotten about for a very long time.
2nd. You are going to start keeping a journal. Its called a solutions journal. For now your going to write out 2 long term goals. And then your going to start working on your daily goals. This is the second aspect of GAL. Goals. Small attainable goals.
Day 1 goals could be this. 1. Smile 10 times today at people 2. Get new outfit 3. Do 20 minutes of cleaning 4. Do one good deed to a stranger. 5. Read for 20 minutes 6. I will take 1 step forward today so when I take 2 steps back I can see exactly where my next step will land.
Now
You have a small start.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
