I absolutely do not HATE my H. I love him very much as I tell him frequently (he does the same). I am, however, not liking him very much right now. We also talk about everything...our problem is not about keeping our feelings bottled up. We communicate very well together.
The counselor has only validated that which I already know and have pointed out to my H constantly - that everyone else comes before our relationship. He can't even talk about our relationship as just US and must always bring other people into it. The counselor pointed out that we likely have very different value systems. She also said that my H appears to have a problem with setting boundaries with his family and friends, which results in their feelings being considered before even thinking about our relationship as husband and wife.
We've got much ground to cover before we can even address the LD/HD issues.
