Here's the update on our meal with H as we went out for 5pm and came just after 7.30pm.
When H arrived he looked tired, drawn and old, ironic as that is what he is running from. He def appears more depressed and miserable. We chatted a little bit before we left home but I left him on his own a few times in the kitchen as I was 'busy'. When we talked I was happy and light hearted. He asked who had put up the christmas decorations and got them out of the loft. He was surprised when I said me and the kids. I think he was going to offer to come and put them up for us. Ha ha tough! I think it is dawning on him we are starting to manage without him.
I wore a pair of trousers and matching blouse he'd never seen before. Even caught him looking slyly once at the restaurant! He touched my hand a couple of times when picking up cutlery etc. The kids were very entertaining when we were out and we did laugh a few times. Occasionally he looked withdrawn and sad.
Three text came in whilst we were there. One he shared with us from work, the other two ??????? (grrrrr). He excused himself from the table and I knew he was texting her. This is the controlling element. She keeps on at him so he never gets any peace from her. I don't need to say anything I will leave her to hang herself.
Anyway he didn't seem in a rush to join her in the flat as he took D19 to meet her friends in the pub early and said they could have a drink together and relax.
It was a nice evening. He'll probably go quiet now until he visits the kids next week as OW will keep a tight rein on him and make him pay for taking us out!
