Last comment, not a question. It is sad and disappointing that my W sees no other option AND refuses even to discuss/explore the possibility of reconciliation with a MC. If I am so sure of my position, I know it is unshakable, so I should have NO fear in it being questioned. That, coupled with she has NOTHING to lose by engaging in MC.
This was a bit of a wake-up call for me. My W has kind of had the same opinion. She was seeing an IC for a while and suddenly stopped in September. She told me it was because she didn't want to work on the M so there was no reason to continue seeing the IC. This really didn't add up for me. The IC was for HER not the M, although the C was a MC as well.
I was looking for our insurance card last week, and I found an appointment card in her purse for a MC appointment for both of us with her IC scheduled for September (that we obviously didn't go to!). It was right around the time she stopped going to the C alltogether.
She had mentioned previously that her IC thought it would be good to start bringing me but she never acted on it. I have a feeling the IC told her it is time to bring your H in with you and she decided she didn't want to do that and just quit altogether. This is also when she started looking at rental houses and making other moves towards leaving.
The reason she backed out of MC appt could be for the reasons you state above but twisted slightly - "There is no chance for M so why bother with MC?" Or, more likely, it is because she didn't want to discuss the issues I was having with the OM in front of a C, whom she probably had been less than truthful with on this subject. I suspect the IC knew this, since I believe she was in contact with my own IC during this time (I signed a release at the request of W's IC).
Enough mind-reading for one day.
Soleil is right - you have NOTHING to lose. I would have a lot of 'fun' going to a MC at this stage just to bounce things off a 3rd party since W and I have been in a sparring match for so long. Enjoy it as much as you can if you can but don't have any expectations!
Last edited by tryingtilDorR; 12/11/0909:29 PM.
ME/XW:47 S21, D19, S15, S14 M:21 T:26 W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12 W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline
