You are an amazing woman. You are strong. You can do this. You are now in control.
Me: 33 / H: 36 M: 10y / T: 14y 3 kids BD: 2/22/14 Live in separation 3/8/14 H consult lawyer, says filing asap 4/24/14 H moved out 4/25/14 2nd time around. 1st separation 4y ago lasted a month
Well, I haven't been at my house all week. Went home today at lunch to get a couple things and I will be back home tonight as well. But, when I was there, it looked like H hasn't been home at all for a few days either. Then in passing by his bedroom I saw some of H's ski/snow clothes strewn on his bed where he normally sleeps. So, I went in his room to take a look and on one of his bureaus was a printout (printed on Wednesday, same day he texted me and left voicemail message) of a city in North Carolina and the expected weather conditions there. Also, H's big suitcase was gone. So, I think boy wonder is off on another long weekend getaway (with OW no doubt).
Another stab in the heart. These are all things we were supposed to be doing together. I'm the one who got him all his ski/snow clothes in the first place. And now, he's off enjoying it all with someone else. THIS JUST SUCKS SO F+++ING BAD!!!! It sucks because I'm left with all these feelings inside of still just wanting to hear his voice and be with him and see him and I feel like I shouldn't want to at this point, with everything he's done to me. I just wish those feelings would go away. But I guess I have to keep feeling them and recognize that it's just going to keep taking time and I just have to continue growing stronger with each day.
Another part of me is wondering if H thinks I've been gone on a vacation or thinks I'm staying with "someone else" at the beginning of the week. I never told him I would be gone on a housesitting job this week because, well, I never tell him anything about my life or schedule. And it's funny how it coincided with the events of Sunday. But I'm curious if he just whipped up a quick trip, in an effort for tit-for-tat in his mind, or just to get away to keep trying to convince himself of his current path in life. This did not look like a planned trip like previously because he left things all in order then and was just way more organized and methodical about it, like he usually is when he plans to go out of town. Not stuff just scattered about and leaving clues as to his whereabouts.
I know it doesn't matter one inkling now, but my mind, especially today, and even before I saw all that, has a hard time shutting off with all this... sigh.
Me-34 XH-33 No Kids We were M-12Y T-15Y 5/09 Same house-separate bedrooms 01/10 I filed for D / H moved out 09/16/10 Divorced
Sorry, AFG that you have to go through this. This is so incredibly hard. Geez, and all I had to deal with was X taking OW to the concert we had planned ALL SUMMER for. Much less ski clothes, etc. scattered about.
I know the pain. It sucks so bad. Cry, scream into pillows. And remember how badly he is treating you and how you deserve so much better.
And he should break both legs and both arms, in my opinion. Let the OW attend to his, um, "personal needs" then.
Me: 44 Him: 42 Together: 23 years; never married Bomb: August 1, 2009 Affair since May 2009 Walk away; no conversation; no process
Ah yes, the ski getaway. I found out BF was taking OW skiing for New Year's Eve last year and also on a family ski trip with his brother and SIL. After he bought me a new pair of skis and lift tickets in the fall because I was going to start skiing again after 20 years so we could have a winter activity together.
It sucked. And I'm still dealing with the fact that he introduced his whore to his family.
So do let it all out. Give yourself a period of time to scream and cry and whatever to get it out of your system. Then go out and do something fun.
More importantly, if he's going away this weekend what does that mean for your deadline of him moving out?
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
