Hi AW. How much have you looked into DBing? Do you know about the 180's? It means changing your behavior to the opposite of what you have always done. To be completely unexpected- especially when your behavior up to this point, hasnt been in your best interest. I think that an excellent one for you would be to start putting yourself first! I know that you have been with him forever, but now things are changing. It doesnt mean that your M is absolutely over, but right now you HAVE to start figuring out how you are going to be ok.
So, you should start thinking about some goals, did you ever want to go to nursing school? Do you have a drivers license? Just think about things that will make your life more exciting, and fulfilling. Positive changes that you can make for yourself that will make you a better, healthier, more well rounded woman.
How old are you guys? Do you think that maybe he is having a midlife crisis?
Right now, I really dont think that even he understands what hes going through. No one will "Make" him see anything. You cant hope that someone will make him see because if anyone disagrees with him right now, he will push them away. My H actually told me "no one understands me!" Like a 16 year old boy!
The only thing that you have control over is you and how you react and cope, and prepare yourself for your future. How old are the kids? Right now, he is in a fog, making terrible choices, and doing stupid things. You need to decide where you want to be when he comes out of it. Who knows, maybe once you start doing really great things for yourself, you wont even want someone who treats you like this!
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
