Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[TrentC]

It's transparent as hell, and it's NOT going to work. Especially with people with whom she hasn't kept a good, HONEST relationship.

That's another thing to keep in mind. Over the next week or so, the fantasy life that she's got is going to crumble. Her "support" will fade away, and her family and friends aren't going to buy any of the filth she's shoveling.

Meanwhile, you have your family and friends, and very likely HER family and friends, supporting you and looking out for you.
(Not to mention a bunch of pseudonymous goofballs on some website who've got your back as well...)

Hopefully, she will come to her senses. If not? Then you deserve someone better.

[mulesqb]

Ok, just got this from BIL:

B, I'm scared he comes home tomorrow and Im scared of what he could
do. I can't even think of being with someone else not now not in my
future I don't want another man in my life right now except for my boys.
This crap has been going on for a long while and I just can't and will
not live like this. I don't know what he's been telling you but I its
nice he can air out our dirty laundry to my family that pisses me off
more then anything Im sorry you and other B have to endure his gripping
the boys don't answer their cells anymore they said all he talks about
is where am I what am I doing and they are tired of all the complaining
he does.... thank you for your support wish you guys were closer to me

She is spinning right now-putting out feelers to see what I know, and if I have said anything to the Brothers.

SD - Please stay out of this and follow Puppy's instructions about not replying. MY XW did the exact same thing he is talking about last year on Christmas Day. I was very close with her family and on Christmas Day she put a big act on for them and told them that their R with me was detrimental to her case. So guess what happened?? They called me the next day and dropped me like a bad habit. They thought she had turned the corner and was going to build her R back with them and they would have a good R with her and the kids going forward.

Well in mid February they called me and apologized. They hadn't seen the kids since Christmas Day. What a surprise. I forgave them and moved on but I will not ever forget how quickly I was dropped. Since then they have seen her for what she is and have less contact with her than I do. They come to my house twice a week to help around the house, with the kids, etc...

My point is..be numb to that stuff. She is what she is. They'll figure it out. You keep being you. What goes around comes around. I've seen it a lot now.

Strength and Honor.

Mules

[givingitmyall]

Just a slight inconsistency from your W's message to your BIL. And I might be over-analyzing this, but does it strike anybody else as odd that in one breath she tries to give the impression of someone who is deathly afraid of SD, then in the next breath, she says things he does "pisses her off"?

Could be splitting hairs here, but it strikes me as inconsistent to include those two statements/emotions in the same email. Typically, if someone is fearful of their life/safety being threatend by another person, they become somewhat submissive (think battered W syndrome). Having a sense of being pissed off, at least to me, does not indicate submissiveness. Rather, it indicates superiority, as in how dare him, not oh God am I scared.

[TrentC]

Thank you all for everything. The amount of love and compassion, as well as "tough love" on these boards is overwhelming.

If the least I can do is help you reclaim the family that you had to leave behind to serve your country, then consider us even.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

that is REALLY interesting, GIMA. Keen eye, Counselor -- I hadn't noticed that.

Puppy

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Thank you all for everything. The amount of love and compassion, as well as "tough love" on these boards is overwhelming.

If the least I can do is help you reclaim the family that you had to leave behind to serve your country, then consider us even.

Me 2. I am more humbled by you, than you should be of me, SD.

It's an honor.

Puppy

[TrentC]

Could be splitting hairs here, but it strikes me as inconsistent to include those two statements/emotions in the same email. Typically, if someone is fearful of their life/safety being threatend by another person, they become somewhat submissive (think battered W syndrome). Having a sense of being pissed off, at least to me, does not indicate submissiveness. Rather, it indicates superiority, as in how dare him, not oh God am I scared.

It's just more evidence that she's running scared and not thinking straight.

She's trying everything and anything that she thinks will get people on her side.

[soleil]

Soldier,

The wheels on her bus are spinning spinning spinning right now!
Which is why she's now calling you after saying how afraid she is of you and whatnot. You have her exactly where she needs to be... I wonder if maybe the OM already contacted her and told her that he's been talked to by COC and now she's running around like a chicken!?

America-I'm comin' home!!!

Yes you are!!! Haha. I picture Bernie Mac saying this on his show!

[Greek]

Thank you all for everything. The amount of love and compassion, as well as "tough love" on these boards is overwhelming. I love you all. I will link up again soon, to continue down this road.

America-I'm comin' home!!!

Just using my WAW powers for good! Haha! Happy to help ya.
Cheers ~
Greek

[givingitmyall]

that is REALLY interesting, GIMA. Keen eye, Counselor -- I hadn't noticed that.

Puppy

Just saying. That leapt out of the email, and if I had her on cross-examination, I would spend some time with this. Chip away at her credibility.