So I finished reading DB. (Borrowed it from the library, so thanks for the suggestion.) It hasn't changed my opinion about doing some things, but I am going to start DB'ing right now.
I have done a 180 by not calling my husband since he left to AZ Monday. Usually I call often just to say "I love you" and ask about his day when we're apart. Not anymore. He called me yesterday to ask some info about our housing application. I got him what he needed and then got off the phone. No pleasant nothings or un-returned "I love you's." He hasn't said it since admitting to the affair, and even before that it seemed more like a knee-jerk reaction than genuine devotion. I want to tell him, but it's time to change something.
I'm also GAL. Right now that mostly means exercising as often as I can and trying to quit smoking. It's a bit difficult right now to do much more. We are at my parents' four miles South of middle of nowhere. It's cold and very isolated here. But once I get to AZ I'm going to find things I want to do and then do them.
I'm also considering some other changes, and these are the ones I'd like some input about. I've been thinking about telling my MIL to butt out of my life and my marriage. I am one of those people who usually does what's expected of her and doesn't make waves. I let my husband convey my irritation to his parents. But I think I should write her a really long e-mail explaining that I have had enough and she can either deal with that or leave us alone entirely. I also am thinking about writing to the OW and telling her she needs to back off, as well as her parents letting them know their daughter is dating and sleeping with a married man with three small children. But the thing is, my H doesn't know how much I know. He thinks I'm clueless about who she is. So do I risk showing my cards?
I won't do anything on that front until I get moved to AZ. One of the things I need for myself is to get away from here. I find this town depressing and living in my parents' house very unhealthy for my self-esteem and my parenting. I don't want to tick him off enough to leave me here. But what do you think? Should I do it once I'm there?
undefeated 24 H 24 S's 4, 2, 1 M 5 yrs
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." ~Dale Carnegie
