Quote: My H doesn't care enough to show me those things. I know he loves me BUT has no desire (no pun intended) to express feelings in a sexual way. I just can't figure out why...people don't run away screaming when I'm out in public. It feels so awful to realize that you must be so horrible that your own H can't stand to touch you. I don't need a counselor to tell me what I already know.
I'm about 99.9% sure that I'm ready to just walk away from this. I love him yet I hate the way he is making me feel about myself.
From the other side of the looking glass. For whatever reason, in my case anger and a little depression thrown on top, some of us fools don't think what not being intimate with our spouses does to them. Up until now, I just didn't have clue. All I heard from my wife was nag nag or insult. This shut the door to what she was really saying. She never came up and told Blackrook what she really wanted. Sometimes, you can get what you want by being straight forward.
My wife is I believe 95% sure she wants out. She has told me she doesn't love me but then said she doesn't feel anything except less than a woman. IF I had only knew. I would have given a hug when I wasn't ready to go further. I would validate and let her know she is my best friend, lover, that big missing feeling I have in my heart right now.
Ask for what you want. Time it out right, don't wait until Nascar comes on like my W did and don't wait for Star Trek. Catch me when you know I'll be listening. Try to work it out and please don't leave him. We don't want to see your H on this board.
P.S. Check out my saga in this form under W wants out of sex starved marriage. Please join in and help Blackrook keep his queen. I was a fool.
