Thanks Rabbit. I have always been the peace keeper so standing up to him has been challenging but these days he does acknowledge times he is wrong and does try to make peace(still usually without having to say sorry).
H tries to bully people into doing what he wants when he is under pressure and things are not going the way he wants them to. He doesn't show this trait normally but I think this tactic has worked in the past so he keeps using it. I keep trying to explain that yelling at me only gets my back up. When he's calm and teaches or explains he's got far more chance of getting me to go along with his proposals.
Anyway, the settlement and divorce is getting closer and then the real pressure will be off.
H tells me he has applied for jobs interstate and overseas as a temporary measure. He plans on coming back in the long term.
