No, I do not want him in my life. He may have changed but towards me he acts no different. He doesn't validate anything I think or express to him. He still justifies or has an excuse for everything and honestly feeds me so much BS I just won't tolerate it anymore.
I have worked way too hard and grown way too much to regress back. Also, he is still with his A two years later and that is a deal breaker for me. In his mind once we legally separated he and I would get to know one another again and if that went "good" THEN he would tell his GF! LOL! He actually verbalized this plan to me.
All my H does is speculate and mind read, or at least he continues to do that with me. I really am just over it. My life is far more peaceful now and I am totally comfortable with the decisions I have made over the past few months.
I don't hate him or even dislike him but I won't sneak around with my own husband while he has a GF! He whines that he puts a wall up around me so he won't get hurt more. I have no time for that. I simply need a stronger man that doesn't let things fester until he snaps and runs to remove himself from a difficult situation. And the absolute disrespect of sleeping with a co-worker before we were officially separated is unacceptable to me. He has shown not an ounce of remorse and still justifies it. So, I told him to go be happy and I will too
