Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[TrentC]

Ok, another question.
during the TRO hearing on Wednesday, if her L starts trying to make me look like a bad guy, should I bring out the proof of the OM? I spoke to my L briefly about it, and he said it might be helpful if it starts to go bad, but if I do that, I lose whatever leverage with my W that i had-Thoughts?

I would go with your lawyer's recommendation; I think it's best if you can get that TRO squashed so you can see your kids.

At some point you have to set the boundary regarding not living in an open marriage. By then, she will have to know that you have proof of the affair. (Assuming she doesn't hear about it from the OM giving her the heave-ho.)