"Just so she knows there is another option. Was that ok?"
Yeah, that's cool. No problems there. And I'm glad you sent him that message. Information is power here. What you're thinking and planning should not be revealed to anyone until action is taken.
Couple of additional things:
1. Its easier to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. 2. This board is CLASSIFIED. TOP SECRET. Do not reveal it's presence to anyone involved.
EDIT: When you land you're going into "intel gathering" mode. This is why I'm advising you to stay away from home for 24 hours when you land.
Your emotions are RAW. You're going to be tired from the trip. Your mental capacity will be diminished and you will be fatigued. NOT GOOD CONDITIONS. You need to be well rested for the onslaught that is about to follow.
The added benefit of this is that it is going to drive your W absolutely crazy not knowing where you are, what you are going to do and what you have prepared for her.
This is psychological warfare. Destabilize the enemy.
