Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[SoldierDad]

Also,
just got an e-mail from BIL - telling me that W sent him a text, that W says she feels threatened. I asked him to clarify. I am waiting on his reply. She is reaching out now to BIL-hasn't had contact with this BIL in 2 months.

[Gnosis]

Stay away from BIL. You have no idea what his true intentions are. Right now until they can prove otherwise... they are spies on her camp.

EDIT:
She is busy gathering her forces and building up her reserves to get as many people in her camp as possible. BLOOD STICKS TOGETHER. Be wary.

[SoldierDad]

Gnosis, this BIL is on my side. He is very angry with W for her actions. She cut HIM off 2 months ago, because he told her she was acting stupid, and immature. But I will be careful.

[Gnosis]

Cool, I'm glad you're being careful. Soldier, as crazy as this sounds, you're entering enemy territory. Look after yourself.

[TrentC]

Gnosis, this BIL is on my side. He is very angry with W for her actions. She cut HIM off 2 months ago, because he told her she was acting stupid, and immature. But I will be careful.

Tell him the truth: you have not threatened her and you don't know why she is saying those things about you.

When you get home, your actions will speak louder than her words.

[SoldierDad]

Gnosis,
the only issue with trying to get her B in her camp is this: When all this started, we BOTH would call the B's and talk about each other-I know, I know. Anyway, BOTH brothers told me, that my W has lied to them ALOT, and that if she is lying to them again, they will cut her out of the family.
This is true, as they cut the oldest S out, because of an identity theft issue.

If they knew what I know from the PI, they would absolutely flip on her, and that would be that. No sympathy, as she told them both MANY times-there isn't anyone else, I don't want anyone else, I don't even LIKE sex, why would I want someone else.

[SmileysPerson]

SoldierDad: I haven't posted to you before, but I've been following along -- I notice you sometimes get swept away with enthusiasm, which is a good attribute in a Joe, but is a risky one for a maneuver leader. Remember what General Patton said: Haste and speed are not synonyms.

Let me suggest that you take a couple steps back mentally before acting on anything. In a sense you need to MDMP the crap out of this. Make yourself a list of COAs and contingencies, phase lines and objectives -- the whole FM 3-0 magilla.

This is an operation, not a hasty ambush. You need good force protection -- videotape your entrance, search, etc. Have a witness.

You need good Gee Two -- don't make wild-haired accusations (even if they're correct, in the absence of evidence they're just make-believe).

You need good log -- someplace to crash if you can't stay in the house and the like.

Make a 5-paragraph op order for yourself. Be-Know-Do.

Hooah.

[SoldierDad]

SmileysPerson,
message received. I am working on all of this - I promise you. I just have so much emotion and turmoil right now, it is just hard to focus. I think that the plane ride will be nice, as I won't have access to internet/phone/text. I will just have to "embrace the suck"
Thanks for reading my sitch, and giving the great advice.

[Gnosis]

And don't forget to brush up on your CCD's. You're going to need them.

For those not in the know: The primary goal of CCD is to avoid enemy detection. What seven rules are critical when considering how to avoid detection or identification?

1. Identify the enemy's detection capabilities.
2. Avoid detection by the enemy's routine surveillance.
3. Take countermeasures against the enemy's sensors.
4. Employ realistic, CCD countermeasures.
5. Minimize movement.
6. Use decoys properly.
7. Avoid predictable operational patterns.

[SoldierDad]

You know what?
I've been thinking about the BIL thing. She is putting out feelers to see if they KNOW anything. She knows I have been talking to them. Folks, you may be on to something here.
Seriously, she hasn't contacted THAT B in over 2 months due to his stance on what she is doing. Now, all of a sudden, she sends him the text I sent her about sharing her with another man.
Is there a lighthouse out there???

I mean, I don't want to read into this, but she was seeing what he knew.