Journaling,
Have been interested to read on this forum how common it is for your own issues to start to surface once WAS returns and re-commits to M. I am finding that. Now that the anxiety of "is H leaving me?" is resolved (for the most part... it is still very new!) I have some very angry days, and waves of grief and sadness at times that surprise me.
I am seeing an IC and this helps a lot.
I have a feeling there will be more to come....