Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[SoldierDad]

I think that they will still sneak around, and find somewhere else to carry on. I guess it will be my job to bust it again and again-very expensive though-if any one has any ideas here??
I'm sure OM COC will lay down the law, but who is to say if they follow it. If they don't, then OM can be punished under UCMJ. But then again-Om may not care. I dunno.

[Gnosis]

You're focusing on the wrong problem at the moment and you are mind-reading into circumstances that are beyond your control. Your thoughts have you running around in a circle: If... If... If...

So if you want "if's" here's a few more for you:
If you don't learn to disconnect you're going to go nuts and lose this war.

Your immediate goal is to take care of yourself first! Mentally and physically.

[SoldierDad]

Gnosis, I can't, getting ready to leave in a few. Gotta plane to catch.
Well, odds don't seem so good. I kinda thought that was the case.
I am really not sure what effect the OM chain, is going to have on my W, and the A.
I'm thinking she is going to lash out again in some way, but I really have no idea.
I'm hoping the OM has already been spoken to by his COC, but I am thinking my COC will wait until he gets on the ground at home station before he addresses it. He told me that that will be his first order of business. He has all the PI info-photos, room #, barracks #, license plate, make, model etc.
I guess I will have to wait for the fallout over that one too.
But, I bet you, she won't contact me at all after that happens. Which is probably a good thing!

Gnosis, Believe me, I am trying, I am working hard at the disconnect thing-I promise you. I get sucked back in sometimes, and I just need to regroup, re-arm, and re-focus. I'm learning-slow but sure.

[soleil]

Soldier,

I'm not too well-versed on how the military reacts to A's but I think it's not good, right?

If the OM wants to keep his job, he will keep his hands off and away from your W.

Be COOL, Soldier, remember that. Think of your kids!

[SoldierDad]

soleil,
the military is almost the last bastion for fighting affairs. It is punishable under the UCMJ, and you can be kicked out if you don't stop the contact. However, it is up to the individual to actually stop. Someone has to PROVE there is more contact for more action to be taken. I am working this avenue very hard.

[Gnosis]

Gnosis, I can't, getting ready to leave in a few. Gotta plane to catch.

That's OK.

Well, odds don't seem so good.

Wrong attitude soldier.
Right attitude is: "My odds just got better. I've got an army backing me who is clued up to the mindf*ck she's trying to pull."

I am really not sure what effect the OM chain, is going to have on my W, and the A.

Not your problem at the moment.

I'm thinking she is going to lash out again in some way,

Take that to the bank. 100% guaranteed. Your job during that is to be a rock. Turn a deaf ear and focus on your own goals.

Think of your W as your drill-sergeant. She's going to spew an incredible amount of crap your way. She's going try and do whatever she can to break you. Your job is to stand at attention and let the abuse wash over you because you know this isn't personal.

Some rules of thumb:

1. Cheaters lie.
2. Anything you say or do can and will be used against you.
3. Don't react to anything. Store it in your memory bank for future processing.
4. Believe nothing of what she says and 50% of what she does.

I'm hoping the OM has already been spoken to by his COC....

You've set the ball rolling on that one. Let it complete it's motion. Nothing you can do but sit and wait to see how many pins fall.

But, I bet you, she won't contact me at all after that happens. Which is probably a good thing!

Yes it is!

Please SD, stay under the radar until you've gotten legal advice. Do not barge into the home and announce your presence. Be cool, calm and collected.

[Gnosis]

Gnosis, Believe me, I am trying, I am working hard at the disconnect thing-I promise you. I get sucked back in sometimes, and I just need to regroup, re-arm, and re-focus. I'm learning-slow but sure.

Bro, I DO believe you.

This stuff ain't easy. We call fail, fall over... but we pick ourselves up and carry on marching.

Have a safe flight.

[Coach]

I am working hard at the disconnect thing-I promise you. I get sucked back in sometimes, and I just need to regroup, re-arm, and re-focus. I'm learning-slow but sure.

The antidote for this is detaching - have no expectations of the outcome. Doesn't mean you stop working towards your goals but you don't control the outcome by yourself. Your job is to do your best.

[SoldierDad]

Gnosis,
I will. just got text from W asking for flight info, so that she can have boys there. I am not going to respond. I have to stay dark.

[Gnosis]

I will. just got text from W asking for flight info, so that she can have boys there. I am not going to respond. I have to stay dark.

Good because this will screw with her plans on going out and having a good time.

She won't know when you are coming back and will have to stay home "to guard the fort" so to speak. Yeah, the kids will be disappointed. Your excuse is you didn't get the message in time and the cell wasn't working in the other airports.

When you touch down in the US send a text:
"Got your message too late. Have landed. Will see you soon."

And then you disconnect. Go see your L. Go stay with a friend for 24 hours and play a mindf*ck on her.